After years photographing weddings we have seen the best and worst that can happen on a wedding day. Many brides spend months planning everything for their wedding but fail to pre-plan for the day itself. Most of the trouble and problems we have seen are caused by not preparing a list and schedule for the day of the wedding. We've done many of weddings and these are the things that seem to cause a lot of stress. Here are a few problems that come up over and over again. Taking care of these situations that are keys to the success of a great wedding. Here are a few tips on how to prepare for your wedding day and how to get the most from your wedding photographer.
"Learn to delegate"
There are lots of stresses involved in planning a wedding. These stresses range from worrying about money to dealing with family members. It is critical for the bride to learn how to delegate tasks.
Place everything that should go to the church in one location. This lets you add to it as you remember items. Do not wait until the morning of the wedding or something will be left behind. ( Items we have seen left include: The dress, the veil, the rings, and the marriage license).
"People that are late"
You have invested a great deal of time and effort to ensure that you have the wedding of your dreams, but the success of the wedding and your photographs depends upon the cooperation of all individuals involved. Even the late arrival by one or more persons can really cause a disruption of the event. Please emphasis that your time is carefully planned to ensure that we get all photographs of the wedding party and family members in the least possible time and so that you do not feel rushed. The photography will actually start 1 1/2 hour or more before the wedding. It is very important to finish before the guests begin to arrive. You can help us by making sure you and they are ready for photographs, (completely dressed, with flowers,etc.) at the assigned times.
" Pamper Yourself"
A day or two before your wedding, you should start to pamper yourself with a few of the following ideas. A facial & massage might just be the right touch to getting yourself ready for the next few days. Pamper yourself you deserve it, invite your attendants and make a day of it.
"Hair and Make-up"
Have your hair done the way you will wear it a few days before to see if you like it. Don't experiment on the wedding day. On hot summer days apply some of baby powder to keep cool under the dress. Wear your make-up the way you feel best. I recommend that you wear it like you normally do but with a good oil absorbing foundation and with a little heavier application on your eye brows and eyelashes. Refrain from any make-up with glitter.
"Where does the groom fit into all of this ? "
Gone are the days of the guy just showing up at the altar and saying "I do." Today's groom often accompanies his bride to the registry, he hires the band or dj, finds the caterer, writes vows with the bride, and helps with the thank-you notes. The point is that modern wedding planning is a shared experience. Speaking of which, his family traditionally hosts a rehearsal dinner (although a lunch or brunch works, too) for the families of the bride and groom as well as the wedding party. Sometimes, out-of-town guests are also invited to this event, and if they're not, then special care should be taken to make sure they feel welcome. Arrange for welcome baskets filled with information about local sites and restaurants, to be placed in their hotel rooms.
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I have answered all of your letters & E-mail, and will continue to do so. I sincerely hope that these little tips can in some way make your wedding day little more enjoyable.
Best of Luck
Patrick F. Renzi